Are You a Victim in Life?

'If only I had more time.'

'If only my husband could be more understanding.'

'If only my boss would die!'

'If only my son could be more motivated.'

'If only I could get better customers',

these are the common litany of excuses one would hear.

People who believe themselves to be victims say that the only way
for their lives to change for the better is when other people get
better, or if the business-social environment improves.

As long as you keep thinking that it is not your fault, that
something else must change, you will continue to feel helpless and
powerless. By continuing to play the victim, you will be totally at
the mercy of your environment

Why do so many people Choose to be a Victim?

Time to time, we find ourselves unconsciously lapsing into victim
mode till it leads to being an undesirable part of makeup Do you
have friends and acquaintances who complain non-stop about their
employers, colleagues, spouse, society at large, or the government?
How about you?

Without any intention of being cold and heartless, the fact stays;
as long as people convince themselves to be the victims of
circumstance, they will never be able to take charge, learn from
their experiences, move on and change their lives for the better.

Why do we do this? The simple reason being it makes us feel good!
By playing the victim, we get lots of sympathy, don't we? At the
same time, we want to feel assured that we were in the right by
justifying our own actions.

Soon, complaining becomes therapeutic. After all the complaining,
we actually feel relieved of an emotional burden.

Beneficial as it may seem, though playing the victim appears to
have lots of payoffs, the cost of doing so is high for as long as
we blame something or someone else, we rob ourselves of the power
to take charge, and change the situation.

Giving Excuses and Blaming Others Takes Power Away from You

The reality is that most people act in a way that puts others in
charge of their life.

When something doesn't work in their life, they choose to give
excuses, blame others and complain. The problem with this is that
by doing so, you are putting others in control of your life. You
put yourself in the role of victim.

This is the reason causing most people feel totally helpless, with
no control over what is happening to them. Most of the time the
outside world will not change...not until we change first!